BDSM Tools For Rewiring Your Mind Toward D/s — Part Two
When Dominant and submissive work together to reprogram their brains toward a power exchange dynamic, there are a number of tools available to them, from operant conditioning to classical conditioning, along with different types of voluntary “brainwashing.” Still another way to rewire the mind is through the purposeful use of mental triggers that work like…
BDSM Tools For Rewiring Your Mind Toward D/s — Part One
When we enter a power exchange relationship for the first time, we have a lot of mental reprogramming to do to create a path for ourselves away from the societal rules most of learned about equality between partners. It is not all that easy to drop our cultural conditional conditioning toward parity. Both Dominant and…
Live-together D/s or Live-Apart D/s? Pros and Cons
A conversation about cohabitation in power exchange with the most traditional Dominant I know … the sub: I discovered D/s with my husband two weeks into our marriage. It was such an intense rush of discovery that we talked about it incessantly, experimented wildly, and fell so hard in love with each other in these…
Pillion Movie Review
Art is, of course, subjective, and we all respond to a movie in our own unique way, so it’s not surprising that the movie Pillion—billed as a “romantic dramedy” starring the always riveting Alexander Skarsgard—became the subject of debate in BDSM circles. But rarely has a movie been more of an ink blot test of…
Religious Play: Come For The Lord!
By Miss Sasha Most people grow up practicing the religion of their parents, and by the time they are adults, they often have a lot of strong feelings about religion and perhaps even emotional scars from religious trauma. I didn’t have to deal with that; my mother was a hippie who was anything but religious,…
‘Dying For Sex’ Review: BDSM provides healing in the face of death
If “sex” is in the title of a TV show, I am probably going to watch it — and if Michelle Williams is in it, I am definitely going to watch it — but I have some sex-positive friends who nonetheless were turned off by the title of Dying for Sex, thinking it would be…
When subs Cry
A Dom/sub conversation about subby tears with the most traditional Dom I know … the sub: When it comes to BDSM play such as impact, I have enjoyed a decent pain tolerance, at least if there’s enough of a gradual build for my brain to release all those lovely endorphins that help me along. Once…
Babygirl Movie Review: Good News and Bad News for BDSM
As someone happily immersed in a BDSM dynamic for the past ten years, I was thrilled to hear about the release of Nicole Kidman’s “Babygirl,” in which she plays a successful CEO of a tech company who enters a power exchange relationship with a younger man. With such a well-lauded actor in the lead role,…
The Romance of Needles
By Miss Sasha For over 16 years now, I have been fascinated with needles. I have been part of hundreds and hundreds of needle scenes, as both top and bottom, with all kinds of people. I also teach classes in needle play at kink conventions and in private dungeons. It’s not exactly a common kink,…
Creating Your Own Unique Dynamic
When a couple first embarks on a BDSM adventure, they might buy a pair of furry handcuffs or a flogger, then jump in, whacking at each other and generally having a great time experimenting with different kinky activities. What a great start! But eventually, if a couple is gratified by wading into power exchange waters,…
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