When it comes to “coming out” as kinky, no one wants it to happen the way it happened to Chris Gallant, the gay 37-year-old helicopter pilot for the Army National Guard turned Democratic candidate for U.S. Congress. Once he won the primary for his district in Long Island, someone who supports his opponent dug into [...]
For most of the time I have been happily swimming in the mysterious waters of BDSM, when a subby friend would tell me that they considered themselves to be a “brat,” I would only shrug in a “whatever” way. I would also add something like, “You do you, baby.” I didn’t get it. And, [...]
When Dominant and submissive work together to reprogram their brains toward a power exchange dynamic, there are a number of tools available to them, from operant conditioning to classical conditioning, along with different types of voluntary “brainwashing.” Still another way to rewire the mind is through the purposeful use of mental triggers that work like [...]
When we enter a power exchange relationship for the first time, we have a lot of mental reprogramming to do to create a path for ourselves away from the societal rules most of learned about equality between partners. It is not all that easy to drop our cultural conditional conditioning toward parity. Both Dominant and [...]
A conversation about cohabitation in power exchange with the most traditional Dominant I know ... the sub: I discovered D/s with my husband two weeks into our marriage. It was such an intense rush of discovery that we talked about it incessantly, experimented wildly, and fell so hard in love with each other in these [...]
Art is, of course, subjective, and we all respond to a movie in our own unique way, so it’s not surprising that the movie Pillion—billed as a “romantic dramedy” starring the always riveting Alexander Skarsgard—became the subject of debate in BDSM circles. But rarely has a movie been more of an ink blot test of [...]
By Miss Sasha Most people grow up practicing the religion of their parents, and by the time they are adults, they often have a lot of strong feelings about religion and perhaps even emotional scars from religious trauma. I didn’t have to deal with that; my mother was a hippie who was anything but religious, [...]
If “sex” is in the title of a TV show, I am probably going to watch it — and if Michelle Williams is in it, I am definitely going to watch it — but I have some sex-positive friends who nonetheless were turned off by the title of Dying for Sex, thinking it would be [...]
A Dom/sub conversation about subby tears with the most traditional Dom I know … the sub: When it comes to BDSM play such as impact, I have enjoyed a decent pain tolerance, at least if there’s enough of a gradual build for my brain to release all those lovely endorphins that help me along. Once [...]
As someone happily immersed in a BDSM dynamic for the past ten years, I was thrilled to hear about the release of Nicole Kidman’s “Babygirl,” in which she plays a successful CEO of a tech company who enters a power exchange relationship with a younger man. With such a well-lauded actor in the lead role, [...]
