When Dominant and submissive work together to reprogram their brains toward a power exchange dynamic, there are a number of tools available to them, from operant conditioning to classical conditioning, along with different types of voluntary “brainwashing.” Still another way to rewire the mind is through the purposeful use of mental triggers that work like [...]
When we enter a power exchange relationship for the first time, we have a lot of mental reprogramming to do to create a path for ourselves away from the societal rules most of learned about equality between partners. It is not all that easy to drop our cultural conditional conditioning toward parity. Both Dominant and [...]
Art is, of course, subjective, and we all respond to a movie in our own unique way, so it’s not surprising that the movie Pillion—billed as a “romantic dramedy” starring the always riveting Alexander Skarsgard—became the subject of debate in BDSM circles. But rarely has a movie been more of an ink blot test of [...]
By Miss Sasha Most people grow up practicing the religion of their parents, and by the time they are adults, they often have a lot of strong feelings about religion and perhaps even emotional scars from religious trauma. I didn’t have to deal with that; my mother was a hippie who was anything but religious, [...]
If “sex” is in the title of a TV show, I am probably going to watch it — and if Michelle Williams is in it, I am definitely going to watch it — but I have some sex-positive friends who nonetheless were turned off by the title of Dying for Sex, thinking it would be [...]
By Miss Sasha For over 16 years now, I have been fascinated with needles. I have been part of hundreds and hundreds of needle scenes, as both top and bottom, with all kinds of people. I also teach classes in needle play at kink conventions and in private dungeons. It’s not exactly a common kink, [...]
How did you first get into BDSM? I was hanging out with a friend of the family, and after having a bit to drink, I went with my gut instinct, and put on music from the The Full Monty and stripped for her. She said, “If this were any other day, I’d slap you so [...]
DomCon is one of the biggest and longest-running BDSM conferences in the country. Hosted by the legendary Mistress Cyan, this con focuses primarily but not exclusively on female domination and hits two cities every year: Los Angeles in May, and New Orleans in October. In 2021, my husband and I tagged along with friends to [...]
First seen at the Toronto Film Festival in 2022, this riveting two-hander takes place over a single night in a high-end hotel room, and I was hooked from the first scene. The very rich but very tortured Hal (Christopher Abbott with his soulful brown eyes) opens the door to his longtime dominatrix Rebecca (a luminous [...]
When and how did you get into BDSM? I was 26 years old, living in LA, and a friend invited me to a birthday party at a BDSM club near my house. I walked in and the first thing I saw was a stage where two women were tied up together. There was this man [...]
