Perhaps it began when I was about six years old and “played doctor” with the little boy next door. (Yes, we got in trouble.). Or, perhaps it began with a hospital stay in which my tonsils came out and all the ice cream and coddling from gentle-voiced nurses and friendly doctors made me feel coddled and special. Or, perhaps it began later, in my 20s, when I had a handsome Ob/Gyn and I found I didn’t mind sticking my feet up into stirrups for his examinations at all.
Yet, however the seeds for a medical kink (a.k.a. gyno-fetish) became planted in my sexual psyche, I had no idea they lay dormant there until I was well into mid-life and I randomly stumbled into a medical fetish video on Porn Hub. Seeing the submissive woman spread open, feet in stirrups, as a speculum found its way inside her electrified me. I was grabbing my vibrator and making myself orgasm before the “doctor” onscreen had even finished opening the speculum he’d just inserted into his “patient.”
From that point on, I became regularly hypnotized by not only with medical fetish porn, but also medical kink erotica (Victorian Era-based was my favorite, with stern doctors who treated their patients for “hysteria.”) My Dominant soon became my “doctor,” while our dungeon space became a “doctor’s office” designed around a genuine medical gyno chair with stirrups that cost us over two thousand dollars. (Worth it!) I loved climbing up into that chair for “examinations” and “treatments.”
Labia spreaders gave me the thrill of exposure that was intensified by having my orifices pried open by speculums, both vaginal and anal. Urethral sounding felt deliciously edgy and intense. (I would get giddy as I boiled the metal sounds in preparation.) Being catheterized and my bladder emptied for me felt like the ultimate in submission to my Doctor Dom. Enemas were humiliating and invasive like nothing else. Oh yes, these things excited me to a near unbearable pitch.
Of course, I knew from porn sites that my particular kink was not exactly uncommon and yet, in all my time in my local kink community (admittedly small), I never came across someone who shared my favorite kink. So, imagine my delight when I attended DomCon in New Orleans this year and a gentleman with a Cheshire Cat grin leaned over to tell me that he had a medical fetish as well. His called himself “Patient BK” and shared with me that he’d discovered his particular love for medical play thirty years earlier while living in Germany, “the kink capital of the world.”
Getting Off On Vulnerability
It was while serving in the miliary in Germany, said Patient BK, that “I learned that I am most turned on when I lie on a table and submit to medical ‘procedures’ and treatments.’ Those words are important for me to get in the right mindset, as is the way the words are spoken,” said the Patient. “Just hearing sentences such as, ‘It’s time for your treatment,’ or, ‘This will hurt, but it’s for your own good,’ excites me and makes me feel as if I am on a drug high.”
He told me he had experimented with many kinks in Germany but said, “I found that if a female took over, in the role of a bossy sexy nurse, and subjected me to medical ‘therapies,’ I would get that mysterious high feeling, and become very erotically involved… Nothing else has ever elicited that excitement factor like that.” He added that he vividly recalled his first prostate milking by a “nurse” in a white uniform. “I was thrilled and thought, ‘That’s it!’”
As in most fetishes, a medical kink needs to come with conditions very specific to the individual to create the intense whoosh of excitement. For me, it is clearly the exposure factor that arouses me—I need to be spread wide and exposed in every way. However, it probably wouldn’t much matter to me who was giving me my “procedure.” For Patient BK, he needs a female “nurse” who he is confident is trained and knowledgeable in how to “treat” him so he feels no risk of being inadvertently damaged.
“I don’t go for regular needle play, but I welcome injections, especially saline injections into my scrotum that make my balls swell up as big as an apple or orange. I like watching my nurse’s eyes light up as the sack fills up bigger and bigger. The combination of pleasure and pain is wonderful.”
While the Patient said he wasn’t into heavy pain, “light pain applied ‘for my own good’ works well. For me, the biggest draw is the mysteriousness of it, the not-knowing what will be done to me. The feeling of helplessness and vulnerability adds to the excitement.” He added that he got off on patches on my balls that deliver jolts of electricity, as well as urethral sounding.
“I also enjoy what I call ‘anesthesia,’ which is face sitting and a bit of suffocation that gets me light-headed. There are different levels, some of my nurses have been fully clothed, which I call ‘light anesthesia.’ Some have just a thin strip of panties, which is ‘medium anesthesia,’ and of course there is being heavily anesthetized by a bare pussy.”
Different Strokes for Different Folks
Unlike me, who loves the invasiveness of having my belly filled with water as well as the burn of humiliation that seems to come with it, Patient BK says enemas do nothing for him. “That’s too time-consuming, having to wait out to completion. It’s just not sexy to me.” Well, to each his own!
Luckily, stores that sell BDSM gear offer many different options to medical kinksters in the way of equipment, most of it not nearly as expensive as the genuine gyno chair with stirrups which drained our savings account but felt so essential to me and my Doctor Dom. Old-fashioned enema bags are popular, as well as speculums, spreaders and urethral sounds. Various pumps for nipples, clits, penises and buttholes can add excitement to a treatment or therapy. A gag or straight-jacket can make for some intense bondage to add to a feeling of helplessness. Needles and syringes can add some of the earthiness of blood play into the mix. Electro-sex equipment, both wands and patches, can bring hot blood rushing to the genitals.
Yet, however fun such equipment, medical devices aren’t always necessary for a satisfying scene. Something as simple as a doctor coat and box of latex gloves can make for a satisfying “appointment” with the doctor or nurse. Indeed, there is an entire sub-genre of medical kink in which a Top simply putting on a pair of latex gloves and making them snap against their wrist can make their bottom melt with arousal.
With such a variety of options to explore and experiment with, I have never become bored with kinky medical roleplay games. I don’t even have to physically play the game to get off on it, just imagining in it fantasy will put me over the masturbation edge. Thank the kinky gods for the sexual magic of a fetish.
For more on medical play, along with plentiful ideas and “how to” advice, here are a few options:
https://www.romanticadventures.com/blog/medical-play
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a37500323/medical-fetishism
https://uberkinky.com/blogs/essential-guides/beginners-guide-to-medical-play
