A Dom/sub conversation about subby tears with the most traditional Dom I know … the sub: When it comes to BDSM play such as impact, I have enjoyed a decent pain tolerance, at least if there’s enough of a gradual build for my brain to release all those lovely endorphins that help me along. Once [...]
As someone happily immersed in a BDSM dynamic for the past ten years, I was thrilled to hear about the release of Nicole Kidman’s “Babygirl,” in which she plays a successful CEO of a tech company who enters a power exchange relationship with a younger man. With such a well-lauded actor in the lead role, [...]
When a couple first embarks on a BDSM adventure, they might buy a pair of furry handcuffs or a flogger, then jump in, whacking at each other and generally having a great time experimenting with different kinky activities. What a great start! But eventually, if a couple is gratified by wading into power exchange waters, [...]
A Dom/sub conversation about negotiating power exchange with the most traditional Dom I know ... the sub: When I first came up with the idea of writing a blog post I wanted to call, “How to Train Your Dominant,” I thought it was a cute tongue-in-cheek way to get attention and a click. After all, [...]
Back in the 1960s and ‘70s, when the Leather community anchored in San Francisco was pretty much inventing modern BDSM, it was taken for granted that a would-be Dominant would begin training for power exchange by first serving as a submissive to a mentor Dom. After all, how could Dominants learn to control the submissive [...]
A Dom and sub walk into a bar ... and have a conversation. Well, okay, we weren’t in a bar, Robert (the Dom) and I (the sub) were in separate cities emailing each other. It is always interesting to look at a power exchange issue from both sides of the D/s slash. Such as a [...]
In weighing the frequently-asked question whether a Dominant can be considered “good” or “bad,” a submissive can easily find articles all over the Internet will list the different characteristics and qualities of a good Dom, such as confidence, creativity, consistency, self-awareness, etc. Certainly, naturally dominant characteristics are advantages when assessing the quality of a Dominant. [...]
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