By Miss Sasha Most people grow up practicing the religion of their parents, and by the time they are adults, they often have a lot of strong feelings about religion and perhaps even emotional scars from religious trauma. I didn’t have to deal with that; my mother was a hippie who was anything but religious, [...]
If “sex” is in the title of a TV show, I am probably going to watch it — and if Michelle Williams is in it, I am definitely going to watch it — but I have some sex-positive friends who nonetheless were turned off by the title of Dying for Sex, thinking it would be [...]
By Miss Sasha For over 16 years now, I have been fascinated with needles. I have been part of hundreds and hundreds of needle scenes, as both top and bottom, with all kinds of people. I also teach classes in needle play at kink conventions and in private dungeons. It’s not exactly a common kink, [...]
How did you first get into BDSM? I was hanging out with a friend of the family, and after having a bit to drink, I went with my gut instinct, and put on music from the The Full Monty and stripped for her. She said, “If this were any other day, I’d slap you so [...]
DomCon is one of the biggest and longest-running BDSM conferences in the country. Hosted by the legendary Mistress Cyan, this con focuses primarily but not exclusively on female domination and hits two cities every year: Los Angeles in May, and New Orleans in October. In 2021, my husband and I tagged along with friends to [...]
First seen at the Toronto Film Festival in 2022, this riveting two-hander takes place over a single night in a high-end hotel room, and I was hooked from the first scene. The very rich but very tortured Hal (Christopher Abbott with his soulful brown eyes) opens the door to his longtime dominatrix Rebecca (a luminous [...]
When and how did you get into BDSM? I was 26 years old, living in LA, and a friend invited me to a birthday party at a BDSM club near my house. I walked in and the first thing I saw was a stage where two women were tied up together. There was this man [...]
After four years of enjoying a “secret” BDSM life that no one knew about, just my husband and I making up our own rules as we went along, we joined our local kink community. It was a great decision for many reasons — the awesome people! — but it was quickly made clear we’d be [...]
The South Korean rom-com, Love and Leashes, hit Netflix in early February and I was equally keen and reluctant to view it. The chance to watch a movie explicitly about BDSM is a rare thing; we don’t often get to see our bedroom predilection depicted onscreen, but when BDSM does pop up, it is more [...]
Most people who give BDSM or the D/s lifestyle a try are exploring non-traditional play as a way to spice up their sex lives, or perhaps learn more about themselves and their desires. While these readers may gain some insights through My missives, in this particular blog post I am writing for those individuals who [...]
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