When Dominant and submissive work together to reprogram their brains toward a power exchange dynamic, there are a number of tools available to them, from operant conditioning to classical conditioning, along with different types of voluntary “brainwashing.” Still another way to rewire the mind is through the purposeful use of mental triggers that work like [...]
When we enter a power exchange relationship for the first time, we have a lot of mental reprogramming to do to create a path for ourselves away from the societal rules most of learned about equality between partners. It is not all that easy to drop our cultural conditional conditioning toward parity. Both Dominant and [...]
A conversation about cohabitation in power exchange with the most traditional Dominant I know ... the sub: I discovered D/s with my husband two weeks into our marriage. It was such an intense rush of discovery that we talked about it incessantly, experimented wildly, and fell so hard in love with each other in these [...]
When a couple first embarks on a BDSM adventure, they might buy a pair of furry handcuffs or a flogger, then jump in, whacking at each other and generally having a great time experimenting with different kinky activities. What a great start! But eventually, if a couple is gratified by wading into power exchange waters, [...]
A Dom and sub walk into a bar ... and have a conversation. Well, okay, we weren’t in a bar, Robert (the Dom) and I (the sub) were in separate cities emailing each other. It is always interesting to look at a power exchange issue from both sides of the D/s slash. Such as a [...]
